What Makes You So Entitled? (A Rant!)

“I react very badly when mediocrity throws a tantrum of entitlement.”

Lee Siegel

So if you guys happened to tune into my 5 Hurtful Truths post, you’d know that 2019 has been a walking pile of suck for me thus far. However, I’m more than determined to pick up the pieces and craft the rest of this year into a winning mosaic.

And while arriving to this resolution, I’ve found it imperative to periodically detox myself from all of life’s frustrations. Please bare with me as today’s post will be formatted a bit differently to satiate this need to rant. But before I go any further,

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Okay, let’s get down to what’s been bugging me lately. Lately I’ve felt myself growing very annoyed and disinterested with a lot of people in my life. I’ve grown weary of the complaining, the whining, the stagnation, the excuses, and as today’s title would suggest, this UNDESERVED sense of entitlement.

To make this easier to digest, I’ll break this rant down into 3 parts: physical, mental, and financial entitlement.

FAIR WARNING: This rant is mostly what I’ve been observing, but presented in a generalized fashion. So if you somehow get offended, I can’t help you there. Take that up with yourself, the Lord, and the universe. Shall we begin?

#1. Physical Entitlement

Now, anyone who knows me personally knows that I have a tendency to disappear from socialization for extensive periods of time. Quite frankly, I enjoy my own company. I’ve learnt how to be my own best friend on many occasions. And yes, it did take many painfully lonesome nights to finally morph into this power-introvert (Lol, I’m trademarking this term by the way), but I’m thankful to God I’ve acquired this skill early-on in my life.

Notwithstanding, there are SOME PEOPLE out there who really need to learn how to stand on their own. THIS JUST IN, I am nobody’s possession. I don’t have to do every Jesus Christ thing with you. We are not joined together by the hip. Feces do not exit our rear-ends at the same time. We all came into this world alone (one contraction at a time) and some people have lost sight of this fact.

People, learn to make decisions on your own and be able to stand firm on those decisions alone. Stop jonesing for a bandwagon all the time. IT’S ANNOYING. I am me, you are you. I am going to do my own thing and pursue what makes me happy, so don’t pick up an attitude or throw a tantrum when I decide to etch my own path. Grow up! Are you really that afraid of being alone?

Hear me good, I am not your comfort zone, your safety line, your end-all-be-all. If you’re gonna get upset every time I decide to do my own thing then you’re one less person I need in my life.

Granted, I know sometimes the intention may be good, but there are gonna be times when you’ve got to let people figure their shit out on their own, in their own time, in their own special way.

Nobody was born with the exact, same mind. Ideals will differ, but it’s up to you to show your support in the face of indifference and be not afraid to do things on your own. Be your own person and respect others when they disagree with you on what they want to do with THEIR life.

More now than ever, I will not be physically tagging along with anything that would make me feel uncomfortable, regretful, or unfulfilled. And I make no apologies for it. For anyone who feels slighted, there’s a physical finger you can have from me to you.

#2. Mental Entitlement

This one upsets me on another level because it’s something I’ve entertained for so long. You see, for many years now I’ve lost myself in service to others. I’ve countlessly went out of my way to make sure that everyone was okay, that their needs were being met, that they were successful in achieving their goals.

But when I started to experience serious pangs of depression, anxiety, frustration, when I decided I wanted to shift the focus of my mind on ME, it was an issue. Many (NOT ALL) of those individuals NEVER went out of their way to check on my well-being, to render a helping-hand. But luckily, I finally found myself and have had enough of the bull-shittery.

LEAVE ME ALONE. I AM NO LONGER A THINK TANK FOR YOU PEOPLE. I will no longer allow any of you to monopolize my mind and drain my mental energy trying to help you achieve your next big feat. I’m tired of being the one who’s only checked up on when my mind or my ideals can be of service.

FUCK.

OFF.

I’m tired of being a toy that people enjoy ’til all the tricks don’t work anymore. And to my awesome readers, sometimes you really just have to sit down and think “Would this person even keep in contact with me if it weren’t for my talents/material objects/my intellect?” Sometimes, you’ve got to get vocal, otherwise your frustrations will mentally barbecue you alive. (Trust me, I’ve BEEN THERE.)

Too many days I’ve went out of my way, using every fiber of brain power to help out. And not once, was the same or even a morsel at that, ever reciprocated. But that’s fine, life has a way of dealing with everyone accordingly.

#3. Financial Entitlement

Now this is a BIGGIE! To this day I’m still trying to wrap my head around this. When did I sign over my soul to anyone? When did I agree to offer everything that comes into my possession to you on a silver platter? BITCH I DON’T EVEN OWN A SILVER PLATTER!

I don’t know if it’s just me, but I’ve come across some individuals who believe that you are indebted to the them because of friendship, because of kinship. HA!

When all they did was be around you or be related to you. When all they did was shit on your dreams and goals. When all they did was drain your energy. When all they did was breathe up in your face and watch you struggle to survive. These are the people who feel that whatever you make, whatever you earned, and worked hard to earn, should be significantly portioned off to them.

WELL NEWSFLASH, I don’t have any kids, I’m 21 years young, and don’t owe anybody a dime. STOP WATCHING MY EVERY MOVE. STOP PRAYING FOR MY DOWNFALL. STOP TRYING TO SUCK EVERY OUNCE OF WHAT I ALREADY DON’T HAVE because you feel entitled. Because someone in your life, unwisely gave you an unwarranted sense of entitlement. Stop foisting this unwarranted entitlement onto those around you.

Because the truth is, when life gets costly for me, you can’t contribute a penny to the cause. I am no one’s obligation and vice-versa. Understand that everyone around you was not put on this Earth to serve you. People have things to do financially – education, travel, bills, investments, hobbies, health. Step out of close-mindedness and realize that the world is so much more than you.

Understand that if I’m doing something for you it’s because I want to. Understand that I have every right to do with my earnings as I see fit. You weren’t there with me when I was crying my eyes out, praying to God for a miracle, and working towards better. And you aren’t here with me now trying to figure everything out. Bottom line? I OWE YOU NOTHING.

**Final Thoughts**

My conscience is pretty clear. Let the salt and vinegar flavored chips fall where they may. At the end of the day, I, just like anybody else am entitled to how I use MY TIME, MY ENERGY, and MY EFFORT, whether it be physically, mentally, or financially.

As always, take care of yourselves and remember to exercise your right to put yourself first. Undoubtedly, you are your greatest sense of entitlement. And let no creature that walks this Earth convince you otherwise.

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